It’s been a solid three weeks since I’ve blogged. While I advise I blog on a whim and post on an as-felt basis, my recent silence is stemmed from hurt. And growth. A journey of a necessary paradigm shift towards my personal evolution.
I’ve started four companies since 2009. I have an undying love for a field that pays my bills (Fashion Designer/Seamstress), a love for positively impacting the lives of those affected by Autism, advocating for self love, self-awareness and promoting the beauty/versatility in natural hair. While my journey may look spectacular and easy on the outside, the reality is FAR from the truth.
You see, not only does my lifestyle require great self discipline and responsibility, I have to face the unknown motives of others. People befriend me ALL OF THE TIME. Some who want me to succeed, fail, support me or just copy what I do for their own gain. If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard “you’re my new best friend” I’d be a billionaire. While I welcome newcomers into my life (happily–I enjoy meeting with and making new connections/friendships). A few disloyal, selfish and negative experiences since December led to me taking time out for myself, to reflect, analyze and try to understand. Over the past few weeks, I’ve summed up a few things and am now compelled to share.
Passions evolve out of experiences. The bottom line here is you can not fake passion. As a result, the concept of “competition” has very little concern to me now. Anyone can start something, anything. Be it due to interest, curiosity, love or just to copy another’s original version. Let me tell you, passion is what will expose the true motive. If you’re looking to feel passionate about something before doing it, then you’re going to be looking for a long time. If you’re not passionate enough from the start, you’ll never persevere. I founded Hope 4 Autism, Inc. due my daughter being diagnosed with the disorder. I founded Brown Skin Women and this blog because I was raised poor, suffered from identity crisis and tried to disguise my natural being because I felt I didn’t fit in. I became a Fashion Designer & Seamstress after trying the normal route (going to college), only to have a child at 17 (and end with a dream deferred). So I taught myself how to sew, and fell so in love with the process. It became my driving force. I developed a love for these things over time, and a desire to live happily through them by doing and sharing. The good, bad and ugly truths.
My passions are stemmed from experience. Not convenience. Anyone who creates a copy of my originality will either succeed, or fail. Succeed because there’s passion. Fail because there’s no passion at all. Who am I to be upset another version comes along? Especially if like my own experiences, they know what the journey feels like? I did it. Someone else before me did it. I’m succeeding. Someone else before me succeeded. And I’m happy. Who am I to deny someone else happiness?
Such. Is. Life.
Do it with passion, or, not at all.
And I’m back to blogging my loves.
So…Until next time…XO